Smart women know dating

I didn’t want to open the book because it felt too close to home. Because in it I found empathy for the women who hear these things and the men who say them.

Individually, you can kind of decide what’s worth your investment and how to structure your time wisely. He’s so skittish.” But a lot of the women learned that they had to be patient and work through it on an individual level with these guys who were putting so much pressure on themselves to provide, which I thought was really great.If men aren’t fully aware of what’s holding them back, how do men and women date smarter?If you listen closely, men will tell you where they’re at.And no matter how much men say they want an equal partner, a woman who’s smart and independent, studies find that such women often make men feel emasculated or inferior.

Birch and I spoke about her book last week; the following interview has been edited for clarity and length.

Perplexed by her own dating struggles, Birch dug into research and spoke to about 100 men and women about why it’s so hard to find the relationship they desire.