It's bad enough to fight with your guy and not be able to see or touch him, but it's even worse if you can't hear his voice…so never argue via text or IM.If you're upset about something, discuss it over the phone—or even better on Face Time or Skype.Sometimes my dude and I would get so frustrated with buffering video that we'd talk on our more reliable cell phones instead while staring at pilated images of each other on our laptops. ) It's like an episode of Maybe the Internet gods were trying to warn us.Because what this technology really offers is faux intimacy: It's the perception of intimacy with the added hangover that comes with waking up in a queen-size bed next to nothing but your laptop. So I fashioned a plan that kept my boyfriend and me connected but wasn't so all-consuming that it killed our respective lives.
The two of them Skype, he told me, but not obsessively: "Your girlfriend can't be a cell phone or a computer." And there was a bright spot I was missing. Previously harried morning phone calls were replaced with quick video texts that I shot on my i Phone.Don't fall into the trap of dwelling on how much you miss each other and how hard it is to be apart.While it's healthy to express those feelings, to maintain a sense of normalcy and closeness it's equally important to talk about random, happy stuff that's going on.Schedule calls in advance, and set aside other activities (ahem, turn off the Facebook feed!